Being Alone Sucks... or Does It?

Not to long ago, I was having a conversation with girlies, that I went to school with. I had asked them what they thought about being in a relationship and having time alone for themselves. They being all great girls, but having been in relationship after relationship- back to back, stated that it would not be a relationship if they were to be apart from their significant other for more then a day. I laughed at this because in my relationship, I'm happy if I see my boyfriend at least once a week but we talk all the time. I'll never forget one girl stated that we only see each other sporadically because he is cheating on me (this I know for a fact that he isn't because I completely trust him). Girls.

But this conversation made me think about our relationship. Being in a relationship is a fun and healthy thing. Some couples need each other all the time- constantly craving each other and losing themselves in each other, which can get annoying. Even though I am in a relationship, and love to hang out with my boyfriend and talk to him (as he is interesting, and I learn something new about him everyday as he does me) but I like to be my own person, and like to spend time alone- without him.

Time alone doesn't mean that I don't want him or anything. This means I want to better myself and be a better girlfriend. All the time alone and away from him, I learn to appreciate our relationship, and value all the time we do spend together. We are dating in the new modern world, basically meaning- we won't have time to see each other everyday, especially with conflicting schedules.

Bar Refaeli recently told Israel's L'Isha Magazine about the time she went through after being away from Leonardo Di Caprio. “It was a half year for which I am very grateful,” the model had said. “I needed it. I came to understand a lot of things about myself.”

“I worked on myself [and] I grew up,” she added. “I didn’t know what ‘alone’ was like. Today I know that a relationship can work only if you know you can be alone and you are not afraid. Today I’m not afraid of being alone.”

In conclusion, I know I can be alone and have a great relationship with the boyfriend, and I think this is normal... What do you think???


..... Love Tanya